So, why all the melancholy? Well, my son is now 10 and things do seem to have changed. All of a sudden he looks more grown up i.e taller, more older boy than younger boy and acts all grown up. I'm not quite at the stomping stage just yet although he is prone to mood swings (I found a good link about stress in 10 year old's here) and being a bit too precious for my liking. I am sympathetic but also try not to pander to his preciousness. Blame the parents. Our children are a product of ourselves whether we like it or not. He is fussy with his food but he has to try dinners otherwise he'd just eat rubbish so it is a battle of wills at tea time. He does have a fair amount of freedom but I do rein in the amount of time on computer games etc as I firmly believe it has a negative impact on kids behavior.
He gets sarcasm, jokes, logic and all things semi-grown up. He is starting to understand the world in which we live. Last week, we had 'attempted abductions' in the road which leads up to our primary school. Lovely. Now, it was in the local press and what not but the school said it hasn't really been confirmed. To be honest, we seem to have 'attempted abductions' at least 3 x a year. In addition, in the same week, there were also about 8 stabbings (amongst teenagers) in the rougher part of the borough. It generally promotes a semi state of hysteria on facebook and the general response is "X (where we live) is a shit hole" or "glad we got out" "need to move" and what not. I don't blame these comments and truth be told sometimes, very fleetingly, I have the same feelings to abandon ship. Thankfully, no 'attempted abduction' has ever materalised into an actual abduction but naturally it makes you wonder about how safe the area you live in.
As you all know, I am a bit of an inverse snob so the thoughts of going to 'white flight' England mixing up with the middles and their "I'm not being racist but.." comments doesn't really appeal. Don't get me wrong those comments are rife here too. However, there is no denying that it would appear that the area I am choosing to bring my children up is not as safe as other areas of the country. But I still like where I live. I like the people, I like the amenities, I like the primary school, I like our house and I love being close to London. Plus you are more likely to find employment in London and the surrounding areas than any other part of the country I'd wager. So, whilst yes, I will have to negotiate safety possibly more than some other areas perhaps in the long run employment/career opportunities for my children may be better where we live? Time will tell.
So that naturally started me thinking of High School (secondary school in old money) and the minefield that brings. Now, I did (much to my husband's disgust) look at the whole private malarkey. I looked at the sample entrance exam and thought mmmm son could pass that. Then I looked at the scholarship and bursary conditions and yup you could potentially get a private education for a nominal amount but you'd have to pay for school meals, trips and uniform and therein lies the problem. Now, my son is going to go on a residential 5 day trip in this country (which is slightly unnerving for me), however, in a private school a school trip is not 5 days in Kent its to Lake Garda, Japan and Iceland! There is a 'grammar' school which would be 2 bus rides away and not as elitist as the private school. Mmmm can you imagine me turning up next to the Range Rovers with my Kia Sedona. I don't think so. I think my son will be mixing it up with the majority making it a 2 minute walk to school. Besides how can High Schools improve if people don't send their children to their local school?
|Pic Amazon - I have the book but couldn't be bothered to take a photo!|
On the diet front, it not been great this week. The weather has been miserable I think its rained all week (one day non-stop) and cold. My husband also decided to take down a small wall in our living room so I was banished to my friends for the day which was great but no exercise. I did 1 x weight work out and only my fitbit steps which in real terms don't mean a lot as you need to get your heart rate going. I've established that I can walk 10,000 steps a day relatively easily and I'm getting at least 7 hours sleep a night. I didn't fill in myfitnesspal on Friday or Saturday. I met a friend for lunch on Friday and we had a take-away yesterday (Chinese - 2 x duck pancakes, lemon chicken and rice - to celebrate Chinese new year - the kids enjoyed the duck pancakes). I reckon I'll be the same tomorrow. We had a stroll earlier with the kids and their skateboards and I've not eaten a lot today.
So now that its February, I've decided on a new topic this month to get my arse well and truly back into fitness mode - Flab to Fit February. Like it? The focus will be on exercise and lots of it. I will go back to aiming for 5 x a week and will have some guest posts on their fitness regime. Anyone I know who has been successful with maintaining a healthy weight has always worked out. I will also have pictures at the end of the month in my Zaggora wear to see if its all been paying off.