Recently I came across someone who had decided to upload a picture of their child's school report. I kid you not. Not content with this we got snip bits verbatim and an in depth analysis of their specific achievements. Firstly can we take a moment to STOP and think about these actions. Someone has taken a picture, uploaded it and then re-typed pieces of their child's school report.
Why would anyone feel the need to do this? Do they honestly think anyone cares about how well their child has done at school? Do they care how well my child has done? No, of course not and I wouldn't expect them too. I would put them in the same category as the mother that opens the book bag within the school grounds and in a loud voice proclaims "oh you've got the gold certificate - well done another one to the collection" whilst surveying the playground to see if anyone is looking. No one gives a shit! Isn't this more about the mother saying "look at me, I'm a great mother please congratulate me"?
|Should we bring back these along with the workhouse?! Picture google pics|
Now, before you say well you must be a bitter and twisted old cow who has thick idiots as children otherwise you, too, would be proud of their achievements. No not at all. I could easily show boat should I so desire as naturally (the reckon intelligence is from the mother's side to which my husband doubles over when I tell him this) my eldest is at high school level whilst still being in year 4. My daughter is bringing up the brains rear with above average in some subjects and average (shock horror!) in others. My youngest is also similar to my son but then I did eat a lot of fish whilst pregnant - not to mention cheese balls (hence the weight loss blog) so he could actually be at the bottom of the class. Who knows? Who cares?!
The difference being I don't measure my own self-worth on my children's achievements nor am I self-absorbed (although I do have a blog so the jury may be out on that one). I have never commented to the other mums in my son's year group about where he is in the league tables. I think its a bit crass and I wouldn't want anyone to think I was show boating nor would I want to make another mum feel uncomfortable. There are children who have learning difficulties, who do struggle and mother's shoving it in their faces is just bloody ignorant. Its a shame reports couldn't be done on these types of mother's. I think it could go something like this:-
"Is totally insensitive to other people around them. They appear to be self-absorbed and have no shame . It is evident to me and to others that they feel they underachieved during their own childhood. As a consequence of this, they are living out their unfilled dreams via their children" Moving forward I would suggest they didn't put their child in every club going, turn off the pressure cooker to achieve, achieve, achieve and perhaps take a course in good manners (why teach your children these when clearly you are lacking some?), modesty and decorum. Failure to do so WILL have severe consequences in the teenage years"
I'd also like to point out that I really don't think teachers write bad primary school reports. Even if a child was disruptive etc I'm pretty confident it would have a positive spin. Not only that, have people ever heard of standard paragraphs and 'cut and paste'?! I'm pretty confident teachers have standard patter to put into reports based on abilities. I did chuckle one year when one mum said the head had put how they would miss chatting to their daughter during school. I had the exact same patter on my daughter's report. It was just worded in such a way you thought it only applied to your child! Bit like my grandad would say to me "you're my favorite granddaughter" it was only after he passed away that my cousin said "oh he used to say that to me!"
So be proud - yes but maybe not so loud. Wouldn't it be great if all mum's got an A + in good manners, social skills, humbleness, decorum and modesty?!