Thursday, 15 November 2012

Shit Friends

This little saying keeps popping up on facebook and seems to warm the cockles of a few people's hearts. They don't for me mind. In my view these friends aren't really worth a wank. I'm sorry, couldn't help it, was going to say worth their weight in gold but shit friends happen.

 
I mean how busy are these so called 'friends' that they go for 'long periods of time' without calling or checking in? If you like someone you'll always make time to phone, email and text rather then the odd comment or two on facebook. I would hold a grudge if I were you. No one is that busy. If you like someone you make time for them. Simple. These are types of friends that go into my yearly cull basket if you please. You know the ones you mentally delete. They get moved into the acquaintance category. The above applies to acquaintances not true friends. Don't get me wrong acquaintances have their place in your life too but let's not get the two confused shall me. Someone that can't be arsed to phone or only wants to see you when it suits them is not a true friend. And why is it normally around this time of year? The time when people are leading 'busy lives.'  Why does everyone have to meet up before Christmas? You've had a whole sodding year to get together.  Yes let me drop everything for you. I wouldn't mind but normally they suggest it (bit like The Ignorer) you give them some dates then they can't make the dates you suggested and it never happens in any event.
 
Even if you don't live in the same country and with time differences, if you really like someone and want to catch up, you need to do so on a regular basis. You see, if you are only phoning once in a blue moon, there isn't a cat in hells chance that if feels like you 'just spoke yesterday.' You have more than likely missed massive chunks of tittle tattle that us women need to report on a regular basis.  If you talk only once a year you could even be forgiven for saying "oh yeah that, we got divorced a couple of months back, wasn't working out." Whereas your true friends would have heard about all the details leading up to this point. I miss talking to certain 'friends' that I haven't spoken to in a week. I will always make time for those folk. 
 
So if you see this on facebook how about commenting and saying "oh you have shit friends too and they know who they are!"
 
 

 


5 comments:

  1. Ohh interesting. I think I am just not ready to move on and say that people I have not spoken to for a while are not real friends anymore. My 2 best friends from Uni fall into this category now. One of them I see twice a year and we email and the other I have not seen the day of my wedding as she lives in NZ but she also lives in my heart (and as I write this, I miss her so much I could cry) but we don't talk often and I'm not even sure why that is - very sad.

    Mich x

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    1. I am a tad harsh I know but this is one of the things that does annoy me. Seriously no one is that busy. If we have time to blog, twitter, fb etc we just aren't that into the person we've let slip by the wayside and vice versa. I also have a friend overseas at first we used to call each other once a week even with the 6 hour time difference at least and this happned for a few years but then I felt we'd both changed or out grown each other I don't know and now it is just FB etc x

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  2. I agree with you and Michelle which basically means that I find it easier to stick my head in the sand and pretend that nothing has changed. On the other hand, life does tend to race ahead sometimes and if you have a lot of friends it's not always practical to call all of them regularly. TG for fb and the Christmas round robin eh?

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    1. Indeed for you my dear!! I think you need a cull after Xmas x

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    2. I do think about culling my 600 fb friends but if just half of them read my blog - even if I don't speak to them personally, then that's great stats for me and they fell like they've caught up with my life. As for what's going on with them - who cares, I hardly know most of them!

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