The other day I got a tweeting with a fellow mum blogger about teenagers and children in general. I half joked and posed the question "what is the point of a teenager?" That's a tricky one. I don't quite know. To get from A to B with varying degrees of grief imposed on innocent parties that surround them? Yes this is the conclusion that I have come to.
Everyone has been a teenager and I am pretty sure we, at some stage, gave innocent members of society a hard time. Depending on what kind of teenager you were i.e rebel without a cause or rebel with a cause - the degree of hard time you dished out to others would vary. They way you behave as a teenager is accepted because "you're a teenager". You can get away with it. Further down the line you will just be considered a wanker.
I accept life is different for the modern day teenager. Internet being at the top of the list. Everyone has to be academic. Encouraging all our teenagers to stay on at school and get a degree in anything hides the youth unemployment figures for that bit longer.
So what of the modern day mother? What's her part in all of this? The modern day mother is also consumed with the internet. She blogs, tweets, updates her 'status' and is surgically attached to her mobile phone whilst casting an eye up to check on the kids. Its cool to treat motherhood as a big chore. Tales of what lie you've told your kids, what you haven't done with them and what you have done for yourself are celebrated. We are are more self-absorbed then ever before. Its fashionable to have issues. Hell its celebrated. What you're happy? You're not depressed? You don't hate motherhood? Well you're a bit strange then. I am so tired of twitter at the moment its full of this shit. These blogs are rife and some just resemble The Truman Show.
I can't help thinking that maybe the pampered children coming up through the ranks and today's teenagers are a by product of the modern day mother. In the 1970's we didn't have everything and maybe we want to give our children stuff we didn't have. So they have got used to getting what they want. Minimum effort for maximum return.They are driven to every 30 minute club going. I refuse to do lots of clubs. This isn't spending time with your kids - sitting and watching someone teach them something before getting back in the car. A lot of the time its about the mother's aspirations rather than the child's. Everything is laid out before them. They don't need to think too much. So is it any wonder they struggle to do anything for themselves? I think Internet is to blame but I think my generation of mothers also have a lot to answer for.
Today Mumsnet were celebrating their blogging one year anniversary of which you can find my blog. It was all about how bloggers are changing the world. Enter the feminists and one in particular who was celebrating the fact that she had made Hamley's re-think how they positioned their toys. Yes, she changed the world by getting them to integrate the boys and girls toys as we don't need them to be gender specific. I'm going to swear. For fucks sake. Has she seen the world lately? This is progress? Really? Now all the parents have to wander around like headless chickens to find the toy for their not gender neutral boy or girl. That's not the point - yeah you've made a statement alright. That all is wrong with the world. There are people who have nothing to eat on a daily basis but thank goodness the toys in Hamley's are all mixed up. If you're going to blog for the 'good' do it for some fucking good will you. We are not gender neutral we are different. Accept it. Get over it. Bog off feminists you are a pain in the arse and that's why everything is screwed up.
I could go on but I am too tired. I haven't had a great day. Only got 2 hours sleep last night as I was worried about my husband's back. He's a bit better today but he will be off for the week. We may even have to re-think his entire job and we may have to cancel our holiday in August. We have to pay the balance by Saturday. To top it all I managed to slam my head in the car door today! How can that be possible? I don't know but it bloody hurt. I'm not co-ordinated when I'm sleepy. I did not exercise and I did not take the kids swimming.
Tomorrow will be a better and my spell check now works.