A bit like The Thank You Huffer - the difference being is that you know The Ignorer. The Ignorer is a friend, family member or more likely than not an acquaintance. I'd like to think that no proper friend or family member of mine would get away with being The Ignorer but I'm not so sure.
So have you ever heard of one? I suspect not as I've just made it up. But you most certainly have encountered one, you just didn't know the term for this particular person. Now that we have cleared that up I will begin with my character assassination. Let us begin.
The Ignorer is female. I have yet to come across a male one but then I don't have male 'friends' (see previous post on Why Harry met Sally). She is middle aged. Yes she is an adult woman in, more than likely, her mid to late thirties and beyond. That isn't a given though so you may find a rare breed that is younger.
You have come across each other via child related activities i.e playgroup, school and the like. Now you don't have to be a mum to encounter The Ignorer but it helps. I'm pretty sure I could find The Ignorer within your social circle irrespective of your age, if you are child free or what you do for a living. It might be an old school friend, a facebook acquaintance or a work colleague.
The Ignorer quite simply manages to say "No" to a question, an invitation or night out by not replying in any medium it sees fit. This could be by text, facebook, emails or even letting the phone go straight to voice mail. The phone, in particular, freaks The Ignorer out.
Generally speaking The Ignorer ignores things that are quite pleasurable. You will normally pose the question "do you fancy going...." but you won't get a reply. This is your cue to realise that they don't want to go anywhere nice. Well not with you in any event. Even though The Ignorer is a grown woman she is incapable of saying "no thank you I'm busy" or "no thank you I can't be arsed." They achieve something quite extraordinary - being incredibly rude by not wanting to upset you.
Occasionally they will do the asking and when you respond they will ignore you. I'm going to call this The Ignorer reversal. This is particularly annoying as you've been lulled into a false sense of security. The Ignorer will also question the reliability of your technology - did the text go, did the email get sent? There is nothing wrong with your technical devices. They work just fine.
I do know The Ignorer or maybe two. I know how they operate and they have been labelled and filed away in my mental folder. I can even judge, by the time that has elapsed, from a text whether or not its a no or yes - generally speaking its less than an hour. Occasionally I might even suggest something in the full knowledge that they won't respond just to freak them out. Sometimes, depending on my mood, I may play tit for tat and become The Ignorer myself. They know what you are doing - making a point and this annoys them as their cover has been blown.
The Ignorer is not a bad person. They have a fear of upsetting people and want the 'friendship' on their terms. Trouble is The Ignorer will always keep people at arms length so you can never ever have a true friendship or be able to rely on them for anything.
So am I the only one that knows The Ignorer or do you do to? Now, don't ignore me on this one!