I read this post yesterday. It was about children's manners - I don't know why I read it as they are ten a penny, normally self righteous and invariable just want a confirmation that they parent better than someone else.
Essentially the crux of the post is the mother is having a party for her child. One child is invited but his mother has mucked her around as to whether or not he's going. A clear case of bad manners. This is not in dispute or doubt. The writer is in the right. The boy isn't the best behaved boy in the world, again, it is accepted that this is down to parenting and not the boy's fault. So what's the problem?
Well naturally everyone that comments, the back up brigade, says how awful, the mother is in the wrong blah blah and they are all right. However, one refers to the child as the little ******!. Charming. How very adult and well behaved of you. But what jumped out at me asides from the sheer contempt this woman had for a 5 year old boy, was that she had failed to see, ironically, that her actions were just as rude.
She says in the post she just ignored the boy and walked away (after he came bounding up to her to say he was now attending the party which his mother had previously declined on his behalf). How is that setting any kind of example pray tell? A child is born into this world a beautiful, innocent blank canvas, and it is the actions of the carers that decide whether it will be spoilt or will be a wonderful work of art. Here is the boy - the innocent as far as I'm concerned - not only being shown bad manners by his own mother but a quick lesson in rudeness by other adults he comes into contact with. Furthermore, may I suggest instead of ignoring, resenting and complaining why not just say I'm sorry I've finalised all the arrangements now? That way the mother may think twice about doing this in the future.
The writer said no ones perfect - correct. But I know for a fact there is no way I would ignore a child if it spoke to me. For me this woman demonstrated so much that frustrates me about modern society, of which I have spoken before in previous posts and a lack of compassion and understanding of others.
When my eldest, my precious first born, started Reception there was a boy much more troubled than the boy that was spoke of in this post. Within the first term he punched my son in the face, kicked another boy in the head and was a real danger to the others. He had come from a very troubled background. I spoke with the teacher and the head. I also spoke with the mother to let her know I had complained. She was fully aware of what was going on and apologised for his actions. He was eventually expelled - at no time did I blame the boy as far as I was concerned all the adults around him had failed him massively.
I appreciate my comment will be in the minority and be seen unfavourably by the writer but I think I do have a valid point and I like to think I expressed that politely. I would also like grown up women to act as such and not use language towards a child which would be better suited for an adult.
That is all. Now back to my diet!