Its there in black and white. Its a fact. Its a bolt out of the blue. The possibility to the reality has taken a week. My friend discovered a lump 3 weeks ago went to the doctors who wrote "urgent suspected breast cancer" at the top of a fax. The doctor didn't intend for her to see this. My friend, in typical under statement of the century fashion, thought to herself "oh marvellous". That's all I need.
A week later (yesterday) she's having a mammogram and biopsy and told that the results will be 5 days. She's called back in that day to be told she has breast cancer. She had a bad feeling. I had a bad feeling. That bad feeling was confirmed when she saw the MacMillan nurse standing next to the doctor. Between tears and laughter on the telephone (yes strange but we can always make light of a bad situation) I said "how did you know it was a MacMillan nurse did she have a huge badge with the words on it?" cue laughter to which she replied "no but she had tea and sympathy written all over her face"!
|My friend and me - I'm the drunk one on the right!|
So now we have to wait and see what grade it is - by all accounts there are 3 with 1 being the best and 3 being the worse. I've learnt a lot about breast cancer in a matter of hours.
My friend is naturally upset, scared, angry - why me? So many emotions and worries for the future. We chatted today and one bit of good news, if you can call it that, is that trusted critical illness policy looks set to pay out and in her own words "I'll be bloody pissed off if I go and that mortgage has been paid off and I don't get to enjoy that". As you've probably gathered by now this lady is a fighter - she was a Girl Guide Leader after all and can read a map! A skill I have yet to master.
I was, in any event, going to write about my friend when the blogger community were looking for blogs to promote breast cancer http://www.breakthrough.org.uk/. To write about a woman in your life was the brief. It just so happens that between the time of me thinking must write that blog post and getting round to doing it (a week) the very friend I was going to talk about now has breast cancer.
|My friend's hen do|
Well I also say that we'll get through this.
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